My friend had just finished telling me about her guy problems and I can’t help but think, “Why do feelings exists and why do we date while in college?” I understand that it’s so hard to control your feelings especially if you do like someone, but why?
I’m not saying I don’t date but sometimes I do sit there and wonder why I put myself through relationships at this point in my life when I’m so devoted to my education and so focus on my schooling; and especially because I really don’t know where it’s going. Whenever I date someone, I don’t ever think about the future, I don’t sit and ponder about spending the rest of my life with that particular person because there is obviously no way to tell whether you are going to marry this person or not.
If I don’t know whether I’m going to be with someone in the future or not, why do I have date people? So then because I’m so young should I just blow off every relationship that could’ve or should’ve happened with me and another individual since our future is obviously so mysterious?
It’s funny that I think that but I don’t act it. In the back of my mind these questions are always floating around but in the past I still I put myself through relationships that always resulted in a breakup.
I guess I can never really answer those questions and that’s why all I can do is live in the moment and let the future be a surprise to not only me but everyone else who ever ponder about why we date people at a young age and at the stage of our lives.
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You should always do things that make you happy. If you are happy as a single woman, then stay single! I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and 1/2 years now and have found that the key to a successful relationship is happiness but also that he needs to be your best friend. If you don't have loads of fun together and enjoy each others' company, then what's the point? Don't worry about trying to figure everything out now, just live your life to the fullest and everything will seem to fall into place. (sorry if I sounded like Dr. Phil in this HAHA)
ReplyDeleteOne of the reasons I believe we date people is because self consciously we want to find out more about ourselves. We can learn a lot about ourselves by dating different types of people. We learn what irritates us, what delights us, and what makes us laugh. Relationships make me think. I don't necessarily think about spending the rest of my life with the specific person, but I like to imagine what kind of person I will spend the rest of my life with. I like to ask myself why the person I'm dating makes me happy. My boyfriend of three years is always there for me, and is almost like my best friend. Sometimes we get on each other's nerves, but for the most part we're very compatible. I agree that you have to do what makes you happy, whether that means dating now or not dating for years to come.
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